How To Keep Your Marriage Happy
Is Marriage a Scam? Or An Eye-Opener!!
I have been thinking about this for some time now and kept agreeing with myself that marriage is a scam what do you think? When you watch movies and see other married couples outside their homes, see how they hold and respect each other, you will think marriage is the best thing that will ever happen to you in life…. you assume it will make you the happiest person God has ever made you and that all you need, is to fall in love with the man of your dreams and you are made for life…… So, I thought!!
As a Christian lady growing, my parents were quite very strict and really instituted the biblical principles of marriage into us. So, all we waited for was to get properly married in a church and be blessed, by God. I happen to meet this very middle-aged guy who was very quiet, adorable and a very good Christian who loved God. And that was my number one attraction to him that he loved the things of God and I believed that because he loved God, he was perfect in every sense and no wrong will ever come from him. We started dating and during all this time of dating he was really very nice, was there for me when I needed him to be, he was very patient with me in all things and was a gentleman in all the sense.
We later got married and it was the wedding of my dreams, everything was beautiful, not perfect though because we had a few wedding hitches here and there but at the end of the day we had a great wedding and went on to our honeymoon. It was like all I ever dreamed it would be, little did I know that this was just the beginning of the hard work to come. I quickly discovered that it’s much easier to get married than it is to stay married ……Read the next blog. by Susan
Hard Work In Marriage, Why We Must Do Them?
Hard work in marriage is real, although most of us feel that marriage to the right and perfect man or woman should not be that difficult. But it really can be very difficult, however you need to do the hard work first before you can stay married and the hard work doesn’t end, it is continuous and a never-ending journey until you both shall live as the vows rightly put it.
Statistics indicate that about 50 percent of marriages are crumbling and almost about 700,000 people living in the United States seek marital counseling and therapy every year. The question that lingers on the mind of people is that can my marriage be saved, can the marriage get better than it is, am I the only one experiencing this in the whole world, why did I marry my enemy, what did I see in this person?
My answer to you is that you are not the only one, you never married your enemy and yes your marriage can be saved if you really want to save it. Its all about your mindset and if you really want to stay married. Marriage is like a school, every day you learn new things but you need to do the work in order to get excellent grades. We all have one challenge or the other in our marriages, no one of us came into the marriage with all the answers using all the right tools and was successful at it the first instance of trial. It is not an easy road but the benefits can be really worth it if you don’t give up but do the hard work.
How To Keep Your Marriage Happy
If you have been married for a long span of time, you might have noticed the spark dying out or becoming less fierce: you are not excited about being with your partner anymore, your days are full of routine, you and your partner are not as grateful to have each other as you used to be… and might have, in fact, you may have started taking each other for granted. This breeds boredom, resentment and no more satisfaction in your marriage which can lead to fights and discussions of settling issues. But it doesn’t have to be like this: you can keep your marriage exciting, fun and lovely as long as you put enough effort into it!
If you feel like your partner has become distant, it is crucial that you reflect on the why, and the same goes if you are growing resentful and upsetting yourselves. Discovering the cause is important for finding out the most reasonable way of solving it in the long run, instead of slapping a bandage on top of it.
Do you feel like you take all the brunt for taking care of the house while your partner doesn’t do as much? Your partner doesn’t listen to you anymore? Discuss it with them: they probably will be happy to let their frustrations out and hear yours as well.
Remember the most important part: it’s not you against them, it’s you two against the problems in your relationship. If it turns out you have been neglecting your partner, overworking them and not being too conscious of their feelings, it would be a great idea if you prepare a little day to pamper them: plan a day that is focused on making them happy. If they are an introvert, perhaps make some hot chocolate and stay with them at home watching movies, if they like to go out take them to a nice restaurant and go out clubbing after… putting some effort towards making them feel appreciated will make them really happy.
And if both of you have complaints and feel like you are growing distant… plan a special date to rekindle the flame. Perhaps take a nice vacation together, if you have enough money and time? Maybe go out shopping if that’s something you are both into or take a dancing class so you can grow and learn together while bonding over the music! All in all, plan a special date that will make you two happy, break the routine and remind you two of why you fell in love with each other!
All in all, while some marriages are growing stale seems like an inevitability which really doesn’t have to be: actually most of the time it happens when we start taking our partner for granted and not appreciating them enough and forget to take care of their needs. It is complicated to be attuned to their needs while still taking care of your own, but it is not impossible: simply listen to them, show your gratitude and make them feel appreciated and they will return the favor!